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What is a Winner?

Everyone has his or her own way of dealing with stress. Some of us cry, while others do nothing. Some worry that things will not get better and therefore make themselves sick struggling to figure everything out. I must admit I have a hard time with it as well. I have a tendency to say things like, “I am not going to worry about it” or “Everything is going to be ok” and still go home and worry. Have you ever heard anyone say that in order to be successful, one has to surround themselves with successful people and successful thoughts?

Well, I took that advice. I already see myself with very successful, prominent individuals so the problem had to be one thing-my thoughts. I started to ponder how to change my thought process. How was I going to surround myself with successful thoughts? All of a sudden, it came to me. I love reading quotes. Quotes about love, success, faith, fear -you name it. I decided to have these quotes readily available to me for those times when I need a word of encouragement. I place quotes on my desk, in folders on my computer and in my nightstand near my bed. It seems to be working because I find myself doing a lot less worrying than I had before.

Hanging over my desk is my personal definition of success. It is a quote by Booker T. Washington that reads: “Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed”. I find myself reading it throughout my workdays especially on those days when I feel unappreciated. It helps me to not feel sorry for myself. As a society, we focus on positions (on the job) and allow those positions to dictate our worth. Our self-esteem is very low as a whole. Society tells us that without the approval of friends, family or co-workers; we are not winners. That is simply not true.

You are a winner because you said no to drugs or because you decided not to cheat on that killer exam in physics or even because you chose not to lose your temper, not because someone says so. We have to remember that winning and being a winner is defined by us. We decide what a win is and who we choose to label as winners. I must admit, I get excited about being promoted at work or being recognized for a job well done. We all know what it feels like to have others praise us. It feels good. However, choose not to define yourself by accolades, but by how well the job was done. If you are in a situation where you did not receive an award, promotion, etc; think of it this way-they missed an opportunity to acknowledge your great qualities.

You know when you have done a good job and should congratulate yourself often. Treat yourself to a fancy dinner or buy something nice for yourself after the completion of a task. It does not have to be a very difficult task or a huge project. Why not celebrate the small victories? After all, if it were not for the small tasks, the large ones would never be accomplished. Remember that awards do not always mean you will receive praise. In several cases, close friends and co-workers become overwhelmed by jealousy and envy when one (and not all) is recognized. It is because of these feelings; slanderous statements and gossip may begin about you. This may happen not because you do not deserve praise, but because they did not receive acknowledgment too. I know this may be hard to believe, but it is true.

Having the strong will to close your ears to negativity and words of discouragement from friends and loved ones takes a lot of courage. They may be your friends (at least you think they are) and yes it does hurt to know they are not happy for you, but just because they are not happy does not mean you can’t be. You have to find a way to be happy by yourself and with yourself. Just because I say do not listen to those unkind words, does not mean you do not hear them. Of course you will hear them and the words may be hurtful, but that does not mean you should have to apologize for doing a good job nor should it be a reason to give up on what you want. The world is a tough place and no one was promised an easy road. You have to encourage yourself especially when others don’t. Just repeat to yourself, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). “I am a winner”. It is with these two sentences, you will be able to change your attitude and definition of winning.

Winning is defined as the ability to obtain by work. The definition did not say to obtain by a little work or that winning is automatic. It takes effort and will. Open your mind and give yourself the opportunity to win at all things you venture to achieve.

Shantera L. Chatman is President and CEO of Professional Solutions. She focuses on personal and professional responsibility and accountability. With her dedication to self, excellence and community, Shantera challenges her audiences to grow, connect and fearlessly move forward towards their goals.
For more information on Shantera and her endeavors, please visit http://www.1professionalsolution.com.

What is a Leadee?

I’m sure you’ve asked yourself “What does leadee mean?” I will often reference the term “leadee” in my writing. You probably asked yourself, “Did he misspell leader?” No, I didn’t misspell leader, I meant to spell it that way! A leadee is the person in the leader-leadee relationship that is learning from the leader. Ever heard of the lessor-leasee relationship? The landlord-tenant kind? It’s the same deal here, except it’s a leader-leadee relationship. I’ll often take a look at this relationship to explain a leadership lesson or a point I want to make.

I don’t believe in calling people followers. You won’t see me use that term very often. People don’t like to be called followers. The term follower can have a negative connotation because it implies the follower is not a leader. That is not always true. You see, a leadee in one relationship may be a leader in another. The leader in one relationship may be a leadee in another. A leadee is being led. You can be both a leader and a leadee at the same time. A leadee is a potential leader. A leadee may already be a leader. Confused yet?

What does it take to be an effective leadee?

Now, there are certain requirements for someone to be considered a leadee, and an effective one at that.

1. The individual must want to become a leader, either consciously or subconsciously. Both consciously and subconsciously pursuing leadership improvement are effective and essential, but that’s another article. That desire and drive is what pushes you toward developing yourself into one and continuing to improve every day. If you don’t want to become a leader yourself, you can never be a leadee. At that point, you are, in fact, only a follower. If the drive is present, however, the foundation is set for personal growth to occur. The stage is set for you to develop. Your potential is determined by how much you want to become a leader, and how you approach it, along with your natural talents of course.

2. You need to have the right attitude, and that is one of selflessness. A leadee, if being led properly, must want to do whatever it takes to reach the leader’s vision. The right attitude also means wanting to learn and continually trying to improve. Theoretically, the leader in the situation is just that because they know the situation, their people, and the task at hand. Leaders use this information to orchestrate the situation toward the vision, mission, or goals. The leader’s vision cannot be reached by the leader alone. It’s the supporting cast, the leadee’s that push the team forward toward the vision, mission, or goals.

3. As a leadee you must buy-in to the leader’s vision. Buy-in is essential to working towards the vision and accomplishing it. Without buy-in from leadees, the leader’s vision is just a pipe dream. It is a responsibility of the leader to gain the trust and respect of their people. Only then can the leadees buy-in. First, leadees buy-in to a leader. Then, they buy into a vision. If a leader is leading a team that has not bought-in to the vision, then that leader is not living up to his role.

4. Leadee’s must carry out the leader’s vision. As leadership expert John C. Maxwell says, “Vision begins with one person, but it is only accomplished by many people.” Once a leadee buys-in to the vision, they should be motivated, energized, and excited to fulfill that vision.

In the leader-leadee relationship, both parties are equally important to achieving success. The leader has countless responsibilities. The leadee has infinite responsibilities as well, but a leadee’s most important responsibilities are to support the leader, lift up the leader, and put the achievement of the vision above all else. The funny thing is, by doing these things, the leadee is leading! This is where growth and progress occur. If a leadee has the desire to be a leader, has the right attitude, buys-in to the leader and the vision, and works to bring the vision to fruition, the leadee is doing their part – and becoming a leader along the way.

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What is a Concussion?

Concussions are the most common form of brain trauma injury, and occur when the brain hits the skull. The word “concussion” has been used to describe this injury for centuries, and has become kind of a catch-all term for any traumatic brain injury. The more medically correct term is “mild traumatic brain injury” (MTBI), although this is used almost exclusively in the medical community. Usually, concussions involve either temporary or permanent brain damage, which makes them especially dangerous.

In many ways, a concussion is like a bruising of the brain, and as such there are some serious medical issues that can go along with the damage. They can be especially dangerous if they are repeated over time, as this can lead to brain damage or dementia pugilistica (punch-drunk syndrome). In a concussion, blunt trauma causes the brain to hit the skull, causing a secondary injury. The brain swells in this particular location, and bruises, which can cause serious damage if not examined by a doctor. Concussions frequently happen in sports, although falls and any other hit to the head can cause them.

The symptoms for concussion may vary, and usually become evident shortly after injury. The most obvious signs are:

Headache, which may be hard to distinguish from the pain that goes along with blunt force trauma to the head.
Dizziness, difficulty balancing, and loss of motor control.
Light sensitivity, blurred vision, and double vision.
A ringing sensation in the ears.
Disorientation and confusion.
People suffering from concussions often ask the same question repeatedly, or show other forgetful tendencies.


Fortunately, there are very few fatalities from concussions, although it is important to have a doctor examine you if it is a serious concussion, or if you still feel uneasy after a few weeks. The standard treatment for concussions is plenty of rest and plenty of monitoring of the injury. To be on the safe side, you should see a doctor.

However, if concussions are frequent over the long-term, they can result in a wealth of physical and emotional problems, such as seriously reduced memory functions, difficulty in performing motor functions, and reduced muscle speed. This is common in former athletes, especially football players and boxers, who frequently receive blows to the head.

For more information about your legal options upon receiving a concussive injury, visit iowa-personalinjurylawyer.com

Joseph Devine

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